Tuesday Letters

Acting and Reacting

9 February 2018

There are two ways of living: by reacting or by acting. Reacting is imitating. Acting is being creative. Reacting is saying “it is in my nature to behave thus.” Acting is saying “I have no fixed nature.” Reacting is succumbing to the biological laws …

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On Jane

25 January 2018

You often hear phrases like “I have found my other half,” “I felt incomplete until I met you,” “I have been fulfilled in love,” and so on. In my case it has been exactly the opposite! Let me explain: All my life I felt “complete,” “sufficient unto my …

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Love Is As Love Does

10 January 2018

“Love is not a feeling. Love is as love does.” –Scott Peck, The Road Less Travelled   Enough with words of love! Enough with expressions of feelings of love! Enough with romanticized and transient fallings in love! Let’s stop the falling! Love i …

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Absolute Responsibility

29 December 2017

We have absolute responsibility for our life. We are who we are and do the work we do and behave the way we behave and have the friends we have because of the myriad big and small choices we have made over the years. We are what we have become throug …

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Living Transformer

14 December 2017

You are a living transformer. First – the body. Things go in and come out. Food becomes energy, then excrement. The lungs are pistons. Air comes in, feeds the blood, air goes out. Everything entering your body is transformed by the transformer that y …

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My Midnight Adventure in Spicy Ternate

30 November 2017

How loudspeakers and a pick-up truck transformed my journey   “What the hell?!” I thought. “Are people nuts in this town?” I had just been woken up at around midnight by very loud music coming from speakers that seemed to be just outside my bedr …

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At How Many Points Do You Touch Life?

17 November 2017

The number of points at which you touch Life and the World is the measure of the wealth of your life.  People ask themselves, “Are my days rich? Do I have a rich life?” But what they should actually be asking is, “At how many points do I touch Life?” …

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Stop Repeating and Start Creating!

2 November 2017

The mother of all learning is imitation and repetition. Children learn mostly by first imitating and then repeating the movements, mannerisms, facial expressions, and words of the adults or of the older siblings in their lives. One well-studied pheno …

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Heraclitus’s Unseen Waterfalls

20 October 2017

Ever since Heraclitus, in the sixth century BC, uttered his famous phrase “ta panta rei,” which means “everything flows” or “everything is in constant flux,” humanity has accepted Change as one of the fundamental laws that govern the cosmos. Heraclit …

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People Are Waves

5 October 2017

The people you meet are not really human. They are not even material bodies located in space and time. People are waves. A human being seems to be, most prominently, a physical object, a body with arms and legs, a beating heart and breathing lungs. Y …

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At the Tip of Time’s Arrow

21 September 2017

Everybody alive today exists at the tip of Time’s arrow, at the pinnacle of Being, the highest summit of evolution. This Present, in which we exist at each and every moment of our lives, happens to be the most advanced point of the most advanced age …

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License to Raise and Rule

7 September 2017

To drive a small scooter, one must have a driver’s license. But to raise children or rule a country, one need have nothing! Seen from the vantage point of a future observer living in the twenty-fifth century, our contemporary twenty-first century soc …

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27 August 2017

Vara Blanca, Costa Rica, 2005  In my country it is called “Thermitron.” Here, they call it “Termo.” It is an electric showerhead that instantly heats running cold water to provide a hot shower in remote places where the installation of elaborate wate …

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Ouaaa …

8 August 2017

West Africa, 2010 In these parts of the world, where “restaurants” are dirty shacks and they serve your food on cracked plates with dusty hands, my emergency food has become my regular one. It is condensed, nutritious, easy to prepare, and of course, …

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Digital Flooding

30 July 2017

We have ceased to communicate, for we speak in sound bites. We have ceased to be ourselves, for we exist for the others’ gaze. We have ceased to be original for we conform to the multitude’s demands. Yet none is a more serious predicament than that.. …

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Leaping into the Unknown

16 July 2017

Nothing holds greater power in our life than the Unknown. The Unknown pulls us towards new life experiences, new knowledge, new human relationships – a renewed and revitalized life. The Unknown always calls us, and we can respond either by ignoring o …

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Time and Timing

15 June 2017

Time is this grand, unfathomable, overwhelming entity we can never truly grasp. Mysterious and all-encompassing, it forever eludes our attempts to understand it. Even when we think we are near to grasping a part of its nature, we usually find it atta …

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The Unlived Life of Parents

1 June 2017

“Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically on their children than the unlived life of the parent.” – Carl Jung “I remember so well the agony of being torn between my love and joy for my child, and my desperation to hang onto a sense of my self …

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The Rational Foundations of Gratefulness

22 May 2017

“Life is given to us; every moment is given. The only appropriate response therefore is gratefulness.” – Brother David Steindl-Rast, from The Music of Silence “This world appears to us rather as a world of suffering than as a world of the delight of …

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The Restless Tribe

4 May 2017

Enough with the settled life! There is no settled life – do not fool yourselves. Restlessness is the default state of Man. When I was younger, I used to divide people into two categories: the settled and the restless. I put myself in the second categ …

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Connections Are Forever

20 April 2017

Every human connection we make remains with us forever. We cannot annul it. We cannot go back in time and make it vanish. We cannot put it aside, pretend it is not there, or even delete it from our memory. We may attempt to do any of these, but we wi …

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The Biggest Attraction of China

6 April 2017

The biggest attraction of China is … me! At least while I’m here and moving around. Wherever I go (outside of the main tourist destinations), I instantly become the center of attention. Being a strange looking long-nosed, huge-eyed, hairy-cheeked ali …

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Memento Mori

29 March 2017

The most important thing in life is Death. Yet he seems to come from some other domain, another dimension. He is the strangest visitor in this “world of the living.” Although he seems to be a part of life, his mere appearance extinguishes it. He is b …

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The Eternal Ragpicker

26 February 2017

Truly, we do not think, will or act but thought occurs in us, will occurs in us, impulse and act occur in us; our ego-sense gathers around itself, refers to itself all this flow of natural activities. It is cosmic Force, it is Nature that forms the t …

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Parallel Universes

10 February 2017

We live in a world of parallel universes. The universes of politics, cooking, fashion, music, parrots! Many years ago, I decided to buy a macaw parrot. A few weeks later, I found myself immersed in the “world of birds.” I began to discover this alrea …

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28 January 2017

A chicken-bus quartet in 5 movements On board a minibus in Guatemala, from the town of Coban to the village of Uspantan in 2005, I had a wide range of experiences that led to many inspirations. Later I would write a number of essays under the general …

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Infinite Microcosms

13 January 2017

Infinity is almost always associated with vast entities. We think of the universe as being situated in infinite Space; of Time as extending infinitely along a line backward (the past) and forward (the future); we imagine two parallel straight lines m …

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World Travel and World-Travelers

19 December 2016

Last month, I was honored to participate in the annual Airbnb Open festival in Los Angeles. This weekend-long festival was a true celebration of hospitality, openness, and wanderlust. The fascinating program included the announcement of Airbnb’s new …

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An Extra-Terrestrial Amidst the Dogon

4 December 2016

As a child of the 1970s, I was fascinated by the nascent exploration of space. I spent a good part of my teenage years in bookshops searching for books that explained the American and Soviet space-programs or had amazing colour photos of the Apollo m …

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Just For Me

17 November 2016

While I was traveling around the world, one of the things that never ceased to amaze me was just how many events seemed to converge at specific times and places so as to uniquely enrich my travel experiences. Sometimes the “coincidences” were so extr …

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“But Everybody Does It!”

8 November 2016

It is supposed to be the phrase that vanquishes all opposition: “But everybody does it!” Or its corollary: “But nobody does it!” Your elaborate argument, your opinion and carefully expressed points, amount to nothing. Whatever you have just said or a …

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The Era of Sound Bites

23 October 2016

We live in the era of sound bites. The overwhelming majority of our communication has been reduced to posts, tweets, text messages, and one-liners. Attention spans have dwindled, and argumentative reasoning has been reduced to “the final statement,” …

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The Little Things

9 September 2016

It is not histories I am writing, but lives; and in the most glorious deeds there is not always an indication of virtue or vice, indeed a small thing like a phrase or a jest often makes a greater revelation of a character than battles where thousands …

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The Others’ Gaze

29 August 2016

The gaze of others defines us. So long as we are alone, we do not possess an outside vision of ourselves to which our acts can be referred; we exist within our inner being, which has no identity and no characteristics. But when others enter the pictu …

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12 August 2016

When visiting remote areas of the planet I oftentimes felt like a celebrity. In places such as Papua New Guinea, the Solomon Islands, rural Tibet or Iran, in remote parts of India, Ethiopia, Western Africa, even in less touristy places of Latin Ameri …

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The Conscious Suffering of Development

27 July 2016

When we learn to drive a car, we are anxious, struggle, sometimes even suffer. Most importantly, we are continuously conscious. Learning is a process in and through consciousness. When learning ends, its final reward is unconsciousness: We can drive …

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13 July 2016

Dedicated to Brother David Steindl-Rast who turns 90 years young this very day.  Sometimes people get the mistaken notion that spirituality is a separate department of life, the penthouse of our existence. But rightly understood, it is a vital awaren …

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There Is Nothing To Understand

1 July 2016

We are blinded by “name and form.” We are hooked to our understanding that is limited by our limiting definitions. We are appalled by the brutality, bestiality, inhumanness of humans; say a serial killer, with no ethical constraints whatsoever. “How …

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Monumental Encounters

16 June 2016

Every separation is a rehearsal for death. When you part with someone whom in all likelihood you will never see again, this is almost the same as him dying for you. You will never see him again and some day he will die – before or after you, it does …

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2 June 2016

For what the Spirit sees, creates a Truth, and what the soul imagines is made a World – Sri Aurobindo   Cancun, Mexico My itinerary said: “20th of October – Travel to Cancun via Chichen Itza.” Cancun: the latest tourist capital of Mexico. Chiche …

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The Incompleteness of Man

18 May 2016

Look at an animal – a cat, a cockroach, a fish in the ocean. All have everything they need. All are already everything they need to be. Animals are born complete. There is nothing to be added to a fish or a cockroach from the moment it is born until …

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